tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20183170.post2542173020893647111..comments2023-04-27T05:39:12.758-05:00Comments on Finding My New Normal: SadFinding My New Normalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17403765320651809544noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20183170.post-76927602168893653802007-12-11T09:20:00.000-06:002007-12-11T09:20:00.000-06:00It's so hard during the holidays...especially Chri...It's so hard during the holidays...especially Christmas. There is no magic solution for getting through it...I just wanted you to know that I know the pain and no one can tell you how to handle it. The only thing that worked for me was to get outside of myself...each time I felt all that coming on, I would go out and do something nice for someone for no good reason at all and have the satisfaction that I was doing something positive. It quiets the soul for a short bit, but the roar returns all too quickly. Today your thing to do outside yourself is to tell Bob that he is everything in the world to you and that you are just hoping that somehow that will translate into a child for you both. Children mean different things to men...with men the wife is the crowning jewel...you are that for him, and letting him know that he is that for you is key. A husband's comforting hand on your shoulder, a quick hug, or an understanding, "Honey, can you help me for a minute or two in the kitchen as I can't find...." when those photos are being passed about is also key. Let him know that. It is so hard to say, "Oh, thank you for sharing the photos...they are lovely." But, you have to say it. You just do. There is no getting around it. Make each day your's...it's all you can do at the moment. And know that we are all here cheering for you.Kaytehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04892296035070233639noreply@blogger.com