Back to the Grind

So it’s only been 3 days since we got back from Florida and today is only my second day back at work and, other than brief remembrances of sun, warmth, and sleeping in, it doesn’t feel like I went on vacation at all.  However, the weather here in MN has been somewhat Florida like.  Yesterday was sunny and the temperature was almost 50 degrees.  Today is sunny and they are expecting the temps to top out over 50.  How crazy is that?  Presumably, we brought back the sun and warmth with us.  Bob and I are both peeling now, so if this weather holds, maybe we can get some color back.

Bob and I are still flying high with the news that he’s our local MDA chapter’s nomination for the national Goodwill Ambassador.  We still don’t know much more on that, but they have emailed him a form to fill out.  And we did find out that MN Hearing and Service Dogs will be contacting Bob at the end of February or beginning of March to match him with a dog.  So we will be waiting a while on that.

 So I’ve used the Magic Bullet.  I’ve only juiced with it, I haven’t used it for its chopping or slicing capabilities yet.  It works fine…it’s OK.  Why was I so excited about owning this product?  Stupid Infomercials! It’s fine for juicing, but you have to juice a ton of fruit and veggies to get one cup of juice and I have to stop it and clean it out at least 4 times before I complete a full cup.  Today I cut up 8 apples, 2 carrots, and a handful each of strawberries, watermelon, and cranberries and was able to fill one of the Magic Bullet plastic cups about ¾ full.  It’s worth it to me because this is the only way Bob will eat any fruit and some veggies.  At least this way I can get a cup of good stuff into him.

I don’t know why this gets me so jazzed up, but it does.  Ever since we’ve been married, whenever I’ve sneezed, Bob just ignores me and won’t say, “Bless you.”  It’s always kind of bugged me, but he explained that he’s never done that and probably never will.  Well, the other day, I sneezed a GIANT sneeze…twice.  And Bob said bless you both times!  This was huge for me but I don’t know why.  I’ve never felt so loved by this man who is my husband until he blessed my sneeze.  Weird, no?

Speaking of my husband and our relationship…I have an issue that I need to work out.  I am willing to accept advice, but I am NOT willing to accept assvice and you assvice givers know who you are.  Also, if you are a member of my family, please do not read further.  This issue is kind of sensitive and it might upset you to read of it. Everybody got it?  Ready?  Good!

Here’s the deal.  Bob and I have been trying to communicate about our sex life.  When I am in the mood, our sex life is very, very good.  When I’m not, it’s not.  It ends up where I feel I have to be the initiator because Bob won’t.  He says that when he tried to initiate, I tell him no or say I’m not in the mood.  This might be true.  While in Florida, he asked me and I said I wasn’t in the mood, but given the right circumstances could probably get there.  So he held me and kissed my neck and rubbed me and…I fell back to sleep.  He was sad.  I tried to tell him that women are not like men and can’t get turned on in seconds.  We need to be wooed and involved and warmed up.  I even gave him the “women are like crock pots, men are like microwaves” analogy.  Even after all of that, he didn’t understand that I wasn’t rejecting him, I just need more time and motivation than he does when he’s the one initiating.  He said he just won’t initiate anymore.  So, we’re kind of at an impasse.  Anyone else have any experience with this?  Let me know how you worked through it. I’m not so good with you telling me how to get through this as I am interested in know how you worked through it yourself.  Thanks.